Messages from The High Mother

Finding Love

Our beloved daughters, We know many of you long for love. We watch you searching for love and changing yourselves into all manner of things trying to please someone who might, you hope, be that one-and-only-true-love your fairy tales speak of. Yet for all your looking, it often fades away with time. Our precious ones, do not despair. True Love is real and you deserve it. You're just, to paraphrase one of your old songs, looking for it in all the wrong places.

 So let us here again remind you of where Love lives, and where you can, indeed, find True Love. You have heard Us, and many other Teachers down through the ages, tell you that Love is what you Are. Yet this is difficult for many to comprehend because your society tells you otherwise. 

 You think you have to look for love because you have been taught that it is something that exists only outside yourself, that it is something that only another can give you. We tell you here again that all the Love you have ever experienced has arisen from within YOU. Even while in the throes of Love's highest ecstasies, what you experience does not come from the other, but from deep within the well of Love that you are.

 The most that another can ever provide is a trigger—something that makes you decide to stop suppressing the flow of Love that is ever upwelling within you and finally let it out in all its Joy.  You already possess the Love you seek. What restricts your awareness of this Love—and your enjoyment of it in every moment—is your belief that it can only be experienced under certain conditions. 

 This is because of how your society defines "love" and the many conditions associated with extending and receiving it. In your world, it is granted it as a reward when one is approved of and withheld as punishment for incurring another's displeasure.

"Need" more accurately describes "love" in your world. Need substitutes for love because of the way your societies have set things up. It is difficult for women to truly love because you have been taught to be so dependent upon others. You seek, at the very least, their approval, and, in some corners of your world, a woman's very survival still depends upon having a man who "loves" her enough to feed, shelter and protect her. No real love can be shared under these conditions. What is felt is, at best, gratitude if your needs are met and relentless anxiety if they are not.

It is equally difficult for men to truly love because most have been taught that feeling love—indeed, showing any emotion save anger—makes them "weak" in the eyes of other men. But they do want sex, and so long ago learned that if they could set things up to make women need them—their approval, support or protection—then they could easily get the sex they wanted. Your societies have taught men to glorify competition despite the easily observable fact that it only results in ever more insecurity and feelings of "weakness." Men in your world have thus learned to crave admiration, status and respect to compensate for all this weakness. And, if they receive what need, they call it "love."

 All of you—women and men alike—need to free yourselves from this trap of wanting love from outside yourself, for there is precious little Real Love in your world. If you are to have Real Love in your life, you must do two things. 

 First, allow the Love within you to flow freely through you and out into the world. You can do this by returning to it in meditation and then bringing it back with you into your outer world. Or, and most will find this easier, you can fill your life with the things you love—with the pursuits, places, pets, friends, family and activities that feed your soul and bring a soft smile to your face.

 Do the things you love to do and surround yourself with people who encourage you to do the things you love. Then, and only then, will Love fill your life. Until your society changes its beliefs, you must look here for Love because it is not going to be found in Need.  

 Second, love yourself. Give to yourself the love that you thought had to be earned by pleasing another. Many of your religions and institutions have taught you to seek from others the love you're supposedly unworthy of giving yourself. Instead, when you find yourself longing for someone's love, ask yourself: What is it that I want from their love? What do I think I need from them? And why do I think I need it?

Whatever it is you think you need, Give It To Your Self. If you're longing for Understanding, start taking the time to really look at your hopes, dreams, thoughts and motives? Give yourself the Understanding you need. If you're hoping for Attention or someone to take care of you, start paying attention to your feelings, notice your desires and take action to meet your needs. Give yourself the Attention and the tender Care you want. 

Whatever it is you think you think you need from their love, give to yourself. Believe Us when We say: You already possess that which you seek. All you need do is give it to yourself.

 This belief that you must get something from another instead of giving it to yourself is the root of how women are controlled in this world. It is how you are led to believe that your own life is less important than the lives of those you serve. Know this: all lives are important, including yours. You are beautiful, magnificent beings. We love you deeply and you deserve that Love. 

 Sharing the Love you are with your beloved is one of the most joyful experiences to be had while in body. Yet only when you come to your beloved overflowing with the Love you've found Within and filled your life with, only when you need nothing but to express your Joy, will you experience the Love you deserve. Only this Love will last. And this Love is always found Within.

Copyright 1999-2007 © Gayle Goldwin. All rights reserved.


Cosmic Law is clear: we are One—what we give to another, we ourselves receive. The hand that reaches out to slap another’s face, assaults but its own. “Karma,” the “Golden Rule,” even the streetwise, “What goes around, comes around,” are just some of the teachings Masters have used to help humans understand this Law.

But the dimension in which we live can make it difficult to grasp this Truth. The element of Time creates an apparent delayed reaction in receiving what we give. The illusion of individuated souls creates the appearance of Separateness, of a difference between Us and Them. These appearances make it difficult for many to comprehend this Law. But, when all who occupy the planet finally do comprehend it, then every hand that reaches out to another will extend only Goodwill. 

Our lawyers quite accurately observe that our world has yet to attain this consciousness. They therefore insist that the times in which we live require that we restate the obvious here:

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Messages from The High Mother are channeled from the Golden Circle of Feminine Ascended Masters Who have dedicated Themselves to restoring every woman’s awareness of her Divine Femininity and true Feminine Power.